Along this journey of self-improvement, I find it difficult to stay motivated to be a better version of myself. It seems like such a daunting task when you think that there really is no end until your time in this life is up. As I’ve said many times, I have a strong tendency to be complacent. I have a great life. I have an amazing wife and son, wonderful friends, a great relationship with my parents and in-laws, and a career that not only makes others’ lives better but that I truly love. It’s so much easier for me to just look around and think “Man, things are pretty great. It feels way better to just relax and enjoy life than to stress myself out by pushing to makes things better. So I’ll just chill.” This serves me well at times but if I’m ever to reach my full potential then I obviously can’t have that mindset all the time.
To combat this attitude I’ve recently started to repeat the phrase “moments of better” in my head. If all I ever think about when it comes to self-improvement is this imaginary far-off version of Jacob that has reached his full potential then it becomes impossible to stay motivated in the moment because I’ll feel like that version of me is lightyears away. When I look at some of the coaches I am trying to model myself after I feel like it’s going to take forever to be as good as them so it’s really tempting to resign myself to just never being as good as they are. Luckily one common theme I’ve seen/heard/read throughout my learning process is that nobody gets to a position of prominence overnight. People have to develop a special set of traits and/or skills over years and then they have to be in the right place at the right time to demonstrate that those things they have to offer are valuable.
So what I’ve done to try to work on developing those traits/skills is to ask myself “What can I do in this moment that is better?” It’s hard to answer this truthfully because I could easily say “Anything is better than nothing.” and just do the minimum. So one important part of this strategy is to have a clear vision of what type of person I want to be some day. Whether that’s a husband, father, or coach, if I don’t have anything to compare to then the minimum becomes acceptable. I’m also fortunate that I have people in my life who expect great things out of me. I know myself well enough at this point to know that I need that type of pressure.
So that’s where I’m at currently for self-improvement that doesn’t directly relate to coaching, although it would obviously make me a better coach. Between the sense of urgency I talked about last week and these little “moments of better”, I will consistently put in the time and effort to become as great as I can be. I almost typed “to hopefully become as great as I can be” but then I thought, no. Screw that. Hoping sounds like I’m just passively waiting and wishing for something to happen. Thanks to my wife, Pete and Crystal, and all of you guys, I am going to make it happen. So thank you! And make it a great week.